Dating black women with kids
Please watch your footing as we step into the land of crooked double standards.
As you may already know, double standards seemingly haunt us in every aspect of our lives, whether that's at work, school or the already difficult world of dating.
Comedian George Lopez is in hot water after a recent standup show.
No matter whether you're the black woman in this scenario or the one judging the hell out of her, chances are, you've stumbled across these societally skewed perceptions of black women while they've been dating outside their race: Because black women have historically claimed the matriarch role in black families, they are expected to be completely devoted to that.
After she walked into the barbershop, however, needless to say, they were noticeably disgruntled. Despite this mutually know nuance, Gus greeted me with the “homie hug” as he dapped up and showed love to every man in the shop, including me. He was showing off his trophy that was holding onto his left hand with her right; his newly wed wife. I went on a double-date with her, Gus and a brown -skinned Eritrean beauty last summer, when the weather was warmer, and the “snow” wasn’t exclusively occupying the forecast of Gus’ heart.
Before she walked in, out of the periphery of my eye, I saw a group of Black Men, previously all having separate conversations,simultaneously migrate from their chairs, and stampede towards the huge store front window, like a heard of antelope about to hurdle over Mufasa’s dead corpse. ” – one man yelled with a smirk, obviously referring to the fact, the young woman was “White.” “Ooooo the cutie got a little booty too,” another man generously exaggerated, scrunching up his eyes, mouth and face as he uttered the words “cutie, booty and ooooo” respectively. She smiled at every man in the shop, while accompanying Gus on his homie-hug rodeo. Omg how is your little cheesecake catering business going?
As these women rise into the middle class, the men stay in the lower class, becoming less compatible.
Many black women respond by “marrying down, but not out,” as Mr Banks puts it. Two out of every three black marriages fail, about twice the rate of white marriages.
This caters to the idea that she carries hardships first and asks questions later.